Psychology Today | 03.10.2026 21:36
Apologies in advance to my husband for revealing this terrible secret, but: we argue. And sometimes when we argue, there’s this moment when things just go numb. I can picture it—one second things are red hot, my chest is tight, voices are raised, and I’m making my case, trying to get him to understand me. And then the next moment: nothing. It’s not like I get calm or sad or even resigned. It’s the total absence of feeling. It’s like all the energy I had for this fight (whether it was actually doing any good or not) just teleported to another dimension. I can feel my husband’s frustration in moments like these. He sees me go from engaged to disengaged in a split second. He wants to keep talking, but I’m already gone.
