The Year You Finally Stop Apologising for Wanting More

The price of reasonableness

Marcus Tan

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There’s a moment in adulthood when you get this “aha” moment and realise you’ve spent years trying to be “reasonable.” Reasonable with your goals. Reasonable with your money. Reasonable with your desires. Reasonable with your potential and everything.

And then one day, something cracks quietly, privately and you see it:

Being reasonable has been costing you more than being ambitious ever would.

This is the article about what happens after that moment.

Not the dramatic reinvention. Not the overnight success story. Not the cinematic breakthrough.

But the slow, steady, deeply personal shift that happens when you stop apologising for wanting a life that actually fits you.

1. You stop treating money like a moral scorecard

Most people don’t have a money problem. They have a shame problem.

Shame about not earning enough yet. Shame about wanting more. Shame about wanting comfort, freedom, or options. Shame about not being “further ahead.”

But here’s the truth you learn when you finally get honest with yourself: