Scarcity Fear Is Why You’re Being Singled Out — Especially If You’re Neurodivergent and Unbothered

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Let’s start with a spicy truth: you weren’t wrong to believe there was room for all of you. You weren’t naive, foolish, or “too trusting” when you extended warmth to women who later cut you down. You simply weren’t raised — or neurologically wired — to expect a social world that runs on scarcity fear and hierarchy. But they were. And that difference? That’s why you’re being singled out.

Neurodivergent Girls Don’t Always See the Ladder.

(Especially if we weren’t force-fed its rules as children.)

I’m one of those girls. A bit feral. A bit off-script. Not always tracking the game in real time, historically showing up with a full heart and zero calculation. I never got the memo that there could only be one “interesting girl” in the room. And by the time I caught on to how some women jockey for position in female-dominated spaces — how “who’s the prettiest, smartest, most desired” plays on loop under every yoga class, friend circle, or workplace — I was already exhausted by it.

Because I thought we were collaborating, not competing.

But here’s the kicker: if you’re neurodivergent (ADHD, autistic, or have complex trauma wiring), you may literally not…