Why Do Men Think They Should Be Unemployed in Their Homes?

In a world where both genders are employed in the co-operate world but only women are employed at home

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Here is a question that exposes one of the most stubborn inequalities in modern relationships: women are working two full-time jobs – one in the office, and one at home while many men act as if their only responsibility is a job title.

This imbalance isn’t just cultural. It’s deeply personal and it’s increasingly visible as it’s becoming a familiar pattern, women carrying marriages on their backs while the men they married carry only their egos. But 2025 gave us some of the clearest, most painful examples yet.

Let’s start with the woman whose story broke many hearts – because it revealed what happens when a woman tries to be everything and still ends up with nothing.

The Mercy Kalu Story:

Early this year, Nigerians woke up to the story of Mercy Kalu Ebe, a woman whose sacrifice reads like fiction until you remember that African women live like this every day. Mercy wasn’t just a wife, she was a provider, a builder, a mother, a backbone, a safety net and a dream sponsor. She paid the rent, she paid the school…