Psychology Today | 13.01.2026 23:47
As a sex and relationship therapist, when I ask if my clients are having sex, a typical response will be something like: “No, not yet. I am waiting until I am serious with someone, and until then, I am only doing oral and mutual masturbation. My reply, “That is sex!” This usually gets a response of, “Well, I meant f*cking,” which they equate to sex. Nothing else. I have to remind my clients that fellatio and cunnilingus is called “oral sex” for a reason. That is still sex.
