THE FUSE

I’ve wrestled with the questions of identity my entire life. What makes someone who they are? What makes them worthy of some label? When can someone call themselves a writer or a therapist, for instance? When can they feel secure in their contributions and feel as though their life mattered? Does one need to be the best to silence their persistent self-doubt? To perfectionists, much emphasis is placed on their decisions and their perceived talents because they define the individual. And, they look to their outcomes to judge them. While this is normal to a degree, since all of us need validation to learn about ourselves, perfectionists find themselves fixated on the pursuit of emotional security, hence their obsession with identity.