What non exclusive affection and validation have to do with raising sovereign individuals.

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bodily affection even if it draws children into emotional responsibility for their parents is not supposed to be excluded for the children

or exclusively given between man and woman, father and mother.

The children deserve access to give their mother love
to feel the approval of their mother
and to approve of their mother

this is the source of a feeling of validation.

seperate bedrooms are no shame.

children are no enemies.

all these statements are true

and false

because children get emotionally responsible and in consequence have problems to make independent discissions.

but the opposite is also a problem when parents force their children out even though the parents themselves and the children have need for bodily closeness and validation

so to have people who can make independent sovereign choices we need parents who are ok with the world, they feel validated and seen even without bodily closeness. that's the only way it's ok to tell the child to sleep in its bedroom.
but that also means that the couple don't just takes each other's body for granted and basically only gets physically intimate when the pretext warrants it!