THE FUSE

As a couples therapist and also someone who’s been married a long time, I often wonder why it’s so difficult for two people who love each other to bear the experience of believing different things and holding different opinions. Of course, we want to feel aligned with our partner’s point of view; one of the reasons we choose a partner is because of how they see the world and what they believe. We like like-minded people. But when agreement is not there, when our partner has a different experience from ours, sees reality differently, it becomes a real problem, and harmony feels impossible.