THE FUSE

Many of the adults I work with approach friendship like a test they are trying hard not to fail. Whether they are meeting new people or hanging out with a long-lost friend, establishing a connection takes a lot of work. So, they rehearse what to say, worry in the moment about being too much, analyze every interaction, and then leave feeling exhausted. These actions come from a well-intentioned place, but all of this “work” doesn’t leave them with a strong motivation to “do that again.” Instead, it feels like the morning after studying all night or waking up after a long night out at the pub. That hangover is a strong deterrent from trying again.