Psychology Today | 07.01.2026 06:26
For over 15 years, I've heard therapists describe clients as resistant. I’ve heard it when a client doesn’t complete homework, avoids a topic, pushes back on a recommendation, cancels sessions, or disagrees with a treatment plan. I’ve become increasingly concerned about how quietly harmful that can be. Calling clients resistant often implies the client is intentionally blocking progress, as if they alone are the reason therapy isn’t working. That framing has always troubled me, because more often than not, what gets labeled “resistance” isn’t a client problem at all. I've found that it’s usually a relationship problem (between client(s) and therapist or in their interactions/dynamic), and often, it’s actually a therapist problem.
