THE FUSE

“I feel like I’m watching too much porn,” “We want our sex life to feel like it did when we first met,” or “I’m having an affair and I know it’s wrong but don’t want to end it” are comments I hear fairly regularly in my therapy room. For so many people, lust shows up faster in these situations, and it can feel more primal. Why? Because there’s uncertainty, exposure, and vulnerability in all of these experiences — emotions that can be diminished by safety and trust. Simply put, desire wakes up when there’s risk in the room.