Equality: A Nuance of Human Aspiration or a Social Fallacy?

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So Do we really are geeting equal exposure in terms of equality at our home, academic instiutions,or specifically among men around us the answer if you go through statistics is “no” but still we settle for basic ,bare minimum,that are given to us . women are still at this 21st century are still asking and begging to the patriarchal figures to fly,to choose,to live what they want in there life,its not always the controll that wins, its not the authority that moulds us but sometimes it has to be a free will that should not be asked for rather should be there.

like “air” element of nature that is equally available to both the gender ,equally available to both no asking no authority, i feel like humans have this tendency to authoritate among those who just want to get help to basically get out of there temporary slugish life this is were you get tested and understand why power is important , why the one who is unsuccesfull is considered as foolish, not focused . let me share a story with you of a girl still unsuccesfull in hr life at the age of 26 which is a begining but is often a omnious thing for indin society.

Bharti a girl oh !sorry sorry just a biologically evolved women of 26 year,unmarried, jobless, she grew up believeing that equality as a word tought in schools,but often she observed that its not practiced at home .

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In her house , her faher was not loud but often offensive ocasionally! nor cruel in obvious ways.His authority arrived sofetly through expectations . she was paised when she adjusted ,silenced when she questioned , and coorected when she dreamed too far , as in to become something that was hidden in her heart. Her achivements were acknowledged , but never celebrated; her mistakes , however, were remembered with precision . love came with conditions, and worth came with obedience.

He did not tell her she was incapable.He simply behaved as if her aspirations were optional, secondary,negotiable. Educaion was encouraged, independence tolerated, but ambition-especially hers-was treated like rebellion.Bharti learned early that being a daughter meant being careful: caeful with opinions, with desires, with cofidence.

Our time,this quiet patriarchy did its work. She began dubting herself before the world could. She learned to shrink her dentity, her dreams ,her aspirations , and her worth. She learned to shrink her voice ,to apologise for taking space , to feel numb instead of angry — because numbness was safer. Equality remained a concept , while hierarchy became her reality.

Yet somewhere between silence and survival, Bharti realised this : the system that traied to make her feel unworthy was afraid of her becoming . Patriarhy does not fear weak women; it fears aware ones.

This story is not just about her faher. I t is about how society disguises control as care, and inequlity as tradition . And how human aspiration , espesially a women’s , is often called arrogence — until it succeeds.

“Equality, Bharti learned , is not given. It is claimed, quietly , first within oneself”.