WHY A SEXUAL DESIRES BECOME A THREAT TO SOMEONES LIFE (A GENERATIONAL ANALYSIS)

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In present generation, sexual desires itself is not the problem; the problem lies on how it is shaped , controlled and expressed. One major reason is the lack of emotional education and consent awareness. Many young people grow up knowing what attraction is, but not learning respect, boundaries, or empathy. Desires without understanding consent turns into entitlement where rejection is seen as humiliation rather than a human right.

Another critical factor is the normalisation of objectification through media and social platforms. repeated exposure to consent that treats bodies- especially women’s bodies as objects create a mindset where people are viewed as things to be consumed, not individuals with autonomy. when desire is fueled by power, dominance, or validation rather than mutual respect, it can escalate into aggression and violence.

Lastly, weak accountability and social silence play a dangerous role. when society excuses behaviour by saying “boys will be boys" . Blames victims, or delays justice, it sends a message that crossing boundaries has little consequences. this lack of fear of punishment, combined with uncontrollable desire and entitlement, can turn sexual urges into acts that threat dignity, safety and even life.

Thus, sexual violence is not caused by desire alone, but by the failure of society to teach responsibility, respect, and consequences alongside desire.

IF WOMEN’S SEXUAL NEEDS ARE MORE THAN A MANS NEED THAN WHY DON’T GIRLS RAPE THE BOYS??

sexual violence is about power, not desire.

rape is not caused by strong sexual needs. it is caused by the urge to control, entitlement over anothers persons body, anger, dominance, or humiliation.
WHERE DOES A CHILD LEARNS “DOMINANCE" OR SEXUAL AGGRESSION??

witnessing violence, control, or abuse at home.
seeing adults treat women as inferior.
overheating degrading language about girls or women.

WHAT THE RAPISTS THINKS WHEN THEY ARE COMMITTING RAPES???

RESEARCH:

Have offenders ever been asked what they were thinking?

psychological evaluation:

police interrogation.
prison interviews.
academic research.

ONE CONSISTENT

they were not thinking about desire or love.

WHAT WERE THEY USUALLY THINKING?

“I deserve this"

“ she can’t refuse"

“ I have the right"

° DEHUMANISATION

they didn’t see the victim as a person. they saw:
an object
a challenge
something to control
once a person is dehumanized harming them feels “ justified"
in the offenders mind.

FEAR OF CONSEQUENCES.

why does someone commit another crime after the first one?

° They panic.

they fear being identified.
they want to erase evidence.
they want to silence the victim.
So, the second crime is not planned desire it’s fear mixed with selfishness.

The most important truth (please remember this)

“ Sexual violence escalates when power, entitlement, and lack of accountability meet fear of punishment .

That’s why :

weak justice systems increase brutality.
delayed punishment encourages escalation.
silence protects offenders, not victims.

“ sexual violence and the crimes that follows are driven not by desire, but by entitlement dehumanization and fear of consequences."

Dehumanization - “ means stopping seeing someone as a human being".

Thinking someone exists “only for your use".

Do any of the rapists really regreted what they did after realising.

yes, some do , and many don’t .

some feel real remorse ( rare but real).

A small number genuinely realize.
they caused deep harm.
they destroyed someones life.
they crossed an irreversible line.

This usually happens.

After time in prison
During therapy or counselling.
When they fully understand the victims pain.

The hard truth.

Regret does not undo the harm and lack of regret does not reduce guilt.

That’s why :

punishment alone isn’t enough.
early education matters more.
accountability must be certain and fast.
while some offenders later experience geniune remorse, many regret only the consequences of their actions rather than the harm inflicted on the victim.

Psychological perspective on “sexual violence”.

from a psychological point of view, sexual violence is not driven by uncontrollable sexual desires, but by distorted thinking patterns. many offenders development, where they believe they have the right to control another person’s body. This mindset is often supported by dehumanization, in which the victim is not seen as a full human being with feelings and autonomy.

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Another key factor is lack of empathy. When empathy is low, the offenders does not emotionally connect with the victims pain, making harmful actions easier to justify. In several cases, fear of consequences also plays a role, leading offenders to commit further crimes in an attempt to escape punishment rather than accept responsibility.

“psychologically, Sexual violence arises from entitlement, dehumanization, and lack of empathy rather than sexual need.

“ Most acts of sexual violence stem from entitlement and dehumanization, not from diagnosable mental illness".

“ To stop rape, society must raise better humans, not just enforce harsher punishment".

“ she provoked me" is not a reason. It’s an excuse.

No human being wants to be harmed. No outfit, smile , conversation, or presence equals consent.

someone saying “she provoked me" what they’re really saying is:

“ I choose to ignore her humanity and I don’t want responsibility from my actions".

That’s not psychology. That’s evasion.

One simple question:

“ If provocation causes Sexual violence, why are children, elderly women, and women inside their own homes assaulted??

“ Even one dismissive statement from a position of power can normalise violence more effectively than a hundred street crimes".

Leadership Failure and the Language of violence.

Statement that trivialize rape, wether made by politicians, religious leaders, or authority figures do more harm than the crimes statistics themselves.

They signal to society that women’s bodies are negotiable and violence is survivable rather than unacceptable.

while such remarks may not represent official policy, the absence of swift condemnation and consequences reveals a deeper cultural failure in leadership one where empathy is optional and accountability is selective.

Do you think if a minor attempt to rape, should be free or get punishment??

No, a minor who attempts rape should not be “ set free" as if nothing happened. But the punishment should be different from an adults, because the goals are different.

“ The victims trauma does not reduce just because the offender is a minor.

“SOCIETY”

In india their is a famous saying

“log kya kahenge”.

why value the “honour" over humanity.

in many indian families, a womens body is treated as the carrier of families respect.

victims- blaming is built into culture from childhood, girls are taught rules — how to dress, walk, speak, return home early.

fear of social punishment is real indian society can be cruel: gossip, isolation, marriage prospects being ruined, siblings being, affected, landlords judging, relatives cutting ties.

“ Women are taught to endure, not to demand Justice".

CONCLUSION:

In the end, this is not a story about isolated incidents or individual failures it is about a system that responds loudly after damage is done and stays silent before it could have been prevented. journalism exists to record facts, but also to questions power and expose patterns. if these realities countinue to be treated as statistics rather than warnings, accountability will remain performative. The real test is not in statements issued after public outrage, but in the actions taken when the cameras are gone....