The Moment I Realised I Was Building a Life I Didn’t Actually Want and What I Did Next

The quiet crisis nobody talks about

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For years, I thought I was doing everything “right.”

I worked hard. I saved diligently. I hit the milestones that make other people nod approvingly. On paper, I was winning.

But one quiet morning, sitting alone in my apartment, I felt something I couldn’t ignore anymore: I had built a life that looked successful from the outside but felt hollow on the inside.

And that realisation changed everything.

The trap of doing what you’re “supposed” to do

Most of us don’t consciously choose our lives. We inherit them.

We follow:

the career path that seems stable
the financial habits that seem responsible
the expectations that seem reasonable

We become experts at performing competence. We become terrible at asking ourselves what we actually want.

I was no different.

I could explain consolidation accounting in my sleep. I could optimise a mortgage repayment schedule like a machine. I could manage property, tenants…