THE FUSE

After a few solid dates with a person, you may notice that things start to feel different. Maybe you’re texting every day, sharing your favorite playlists, and talking about childhood pets and funny memories. Suddenly, and without even meaning to ask, the question bubbles up: “What are we?” This is where the three-month rule often comes in. Some people swear by it, insisting that you shouldn’t define or deepen a relationship until the 90-day mark. Others think it’s outdated, a holdover from when dating advice was all about timing and tactics.