Violence against LGBTQ+ 🌈 Community in Nigeria.

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WHEN DARKNESS THINKS IT CAN HEAL ITSELF
There was once a town that believed it was righteous.
On the surface, everything looked ordered. People woke early. Prayers were said. Rules were enforced. Elders spoke loudly about morality, about culture, about what is “ *right* ” and what is “ *wrong* .” They claimed God stood with them. They claimed love stood with them.

But something in the air was heavy.
Not because love was absent — love never leaves — but because it stopped being a present state of being, people had forgotten how to feel it.

In that town, whenever someone lived differently, loved differently, expressed differently, the town did not ask:
“Are they human?”
“Are they hurting?”
“Are they searching for love like the rest of us?”
Instead, the town asked only one question:
*“Do they make me uncomfortable?”*
And discomfort, when not met with understanding, quickly turns into *fear* .
Fear, when not met with compassion, turns into *anger* .
Anger, when given permission, turns into *violence* .

That is how darkness is born — not from evil monsters, but from ordinary people who stop feeling love and start defending their fear.

THE LIE THAT NEGATIVE CAN CANCEL NEGATIVE
Let us be very clear — and very simple.
You cannot use darkness to remove darkness.
You cannot use violence to erase violence.
You cannot use hatred to cure hatred.
You can't use negative attention to remove negative attention, instead it expands.
You can't use negative emotions to remove negative emotions. It only adds up increasing the negative emotions already existing.

This is not philosophy. This is law, as real as gravity.
If you pour dirty water into dirty water, it does not become clean.
If you add fire to fire, it does not cool down.
If you answer insults with insult, the pain doubles.
Negative does not neutralize negative.
Negative multiplies negative.
This is why conflicts grow.
This is why quarrels become wars.
This is why “ *small* ” discrimination becomes *genocide* .
It always starts small.
A joke.
A slur.
A post in a chat.
A laugh at someone’s pain.
Then silence.
Then justification.
Then normalization.
Then brutality.
And people say, *“We didn’t know it would get this far.”*
But love always knows.

WHAT LOVE ACTUALLY IS (NOT WHAT PEOPLE PRETEND IT IS)
Love is not a word.
Love is not religion.
Love is not culture.
Love is not control.
*Love is a state of being.*
Love is the energy that allows life to exist at all.
Love is the field in which every human is born.
Love is oneness expressing itself in infinite forms.

That means diversity is not a mistake.
Difference is not rebellion.
Queerness is not corruption.
Diversity is love exploring itself.
When people say, “God does not like this kind of love,” what they are really saying is:
*“I do not feel safe with expressions of love that I do not understand.”*
And that is honest — but honesty should lead to *humility* , not violence.

THE TRUTH ABOUT THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY
Whether people accept it or not, the LGBTQ+ community exists because love is infinite.
If love were narrow, humanity would be narrow.
If love were rigid, life would be rigid.
But look at nature.
No two fingerprints are the same.
No two leaves are identical.
No two souls express love in the same way.
So why do we pretend love must follow one shape?
The LGBTQ+ community is not an accident.
It is not rebellion against God.
It is not “Western corruption.”
It is love expressing diversity in human form.
And when people attack queer bodies, what they are attacking is not sex —
they are attacking difference itself.

WHY SHAME IS A FORM OF VIOLENCE
Beating someone is violence.
Tying someone up is violence.
Public humiliation is violence.
Mockery is violence.
Shame is violence.
You do not need blood to spill to commit harm.
When you strip someone of dignity, you have already injured them.
And here is the deeper truth many do not want to face:
*When you express lack of love in any form,* you are participating in the same energy as the worst acts of cruelty.

The scale may differ — the essence does not.

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A small lack of love grows when it is left unchecked it continues to grow.

WHY HYPOCRISY FLOURISHES WHEN LOVE DOESN'T COME FIRST
spoken a hard truth:
When money comes before love, humanity becomes transactional.
People stop asking, “Is this right?”
They start asking, “What can I gain?”
Communities turn into markets.
Bodies turn into tools.
Morality turns into performance.
People defend systems that harm them because they are afraid of losing comfort.
And when survival is confused with worth, people start stepping on each other.
That is how classism grows.
That is how communities turn on themselves.
That is how oppression wears familiar faces.

ISOLATION, AUTHENTICITY, AND THE STRENGTH OF SOLITUDE
pushed into isolation because: when you refused to perform.
When you refuse to lie, you stand alone.
When you refuse to shrink, you are called proud.
When you refuse to beg for validation, you are called difficult.
But solitude chosen in truth is not loneliness — it is alignment.
You learn to love your own company, because you refused to reduce your energy.
That is not selfishness.
That is self-respect.
Love does not beg.
Love does not force.
Love does not negotiate its existence.

FORCE IS THE ABSENCE OF LOVE
This must be said plainly:
Force is not strength.
Force is fear wearing armor.
Any relationship built on force — emotional, religious, sexual, social — is already disconnected from love.
Love is always free.
Love is always willing.
Love is always present.
That is why forced morality feels heavy.
That is why forced obedience breeds rebellion.
Love does not need enforcement.

Truth does not need violence.

WHY FEELING GOOD IS NOT A SIN
Some people are uncomfortable with joy.
They think suffering makes you holy.
They think pain makes you worthy.
But love feels good.
Peace feels good.
BECAUSE love is the highest level of feeling good.
And so Alignment feels good.
Feeling good is not escapism — it is resonance with truth.

Performance happiness disconnects us from infinite intelligence.

But genuine joy reconnects us to it.
That is why you can be isolated and still blissful.
Because your joy is not dependent on approval.

WHY NEGATIVE EMOTIONS MUST NOT BE STORED
Carrying hatred does not punish the other person.
It poisons the carrier.
You cannot build peace with resentment bricks.
You cannot build unity with superiority.
Darkness feeds on unprocessed pain.
Light dissolves it by presence, not force.

THE SIMPLE TRUTH THAT NIGERIANS NEED TO UNDERSTAND:
You do not quench fire with fire.
You quench it with water.
You do not cool heat with heat.
You cool it with calm.
You do not end violence with more violence.
You end it with conscious interruption.
Love is that interruption.

WHY LOVE IS GOD
Love is not separate from God.
Love is not a tool God uses.
Love is God.
Every time you choose compassion over cruelty, God moves.
Every time you choose understanding over judgment, God speaks.
Every time you refuse to harm, God breathes.

THE FINAL TRUTH
When we live in embodying love genuinely:
You are not seeking validation.
You are not seeking permission.
You are not seeking belonging.
You are living proof.
Proof that love does not die in isolation.
Proof that joy does not require approval.
Proof that authenticity is strength.
And that is why systems WOULD struggle with you when you start expressing love.
Because love exposes lies without fighting them.

CLOSING
When love is placed first to all genuinely:
There are no wars.
There are no scapegoats.
There are no chosen enemies.
Only humans remembering themselves.
Love does not shout.
Love does not force.
Love simply is.
And everything that cannot survive in love dissolves on its own.
That is the truth.