Do Trans People Owe You Disclosure?

Consent, privacy, and the ethics of being transgender in public

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Man and woman playing chess, trans flag superimposed over the photo. — Original image courtesy of Emre Keshavarz via pexels.com, edited by author.

Pretty much every aspect of a transgender person’s life has been turned into a controversy — and, more often than not, into something deemed a legitimate subject of public debate. From bathrooms, to sports, to trans children, to legal recognition, even the most mundane facts of trans existence are treated as open for scrutiny, argument, and adjudication by others.

Amid all this, there is one issue that continues to provoke as much disagreement within trans communities as it does outside of them, rarely ever reaching consensus: the disclosure of trans identity.

But what are we actually asking when we ask about disclosure?

Are we talking about practical judgment — when, how, and to whom a trans person might choose to disclose — or are we invoking ethical claims about obligation, honesty, and consent that are rarely examined with the same rigor when applied to cis people?

Disclosure, when applied to transgender people, is most often framed as a moral duty — an obligation they are expected, and in some cases legally required, to fulfill, and one that is frequently enforced through social, professional, or institutional pressure.