Can we acknowledge that sometimes, girls kick boys in the balls to hurt, humiliate and dominate them AS MALES?

Boys Have Feelings

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wUrhKQ0QOl0
(Allison Williams (M3GAN) talking about how she used to kick boys in the balls with her “heavy wooden clogs” because it “fascinated her”)

And that the exploitation of their genitals, their “manhood”, and their male vulnerability is symbolically central to this — not instrumental?

Both trauma psychology and international humanitarian law consider this sexual violence — not because of erotic or lustful intent, but because of the dimensions of sexual vulnerability in anatomy, psyche, identity, dignity, agency and social dynamics, in which harm is inflicted.

Harm which generic violence does NOT inflict.
This harm has to be accounted for psychologically and legally.

Boys with histories of such assaults are significantly more likely to exhibit the same patterns of sequelae (psychological aftermath, impact) as victims of recognized forms of sexual violence, than those without them — including those who experienced other forms of violence.

Harm and culpability has to be assessed in regard to the reasonable, foreseeable effect it can have on the victim — not the unverifiable, internal states of the perpetrator.

I know what some of you will say, but consider this: Within the same gender group, the act can’t function as gendered domination or devaluation.
Those meanings can only exist across a gender boundary.
The same act can be play, insult, or violation, depending on whether it happens within or across group.
This is accepted as true in other contexts. Kids may use slurs among peers, but that doesn’t make the same slur “neutral” coming from outside the group.
Female friends may touch each other in ways, or say things to each other, that would clearly be sexual or transgressive if done by a male.
Context and group membership matter. It is still significant — but not the same.
Both in motivation and the victim’s perception.

This is not intended as pathologization of children or as unilateral blame — I am pointing out a normalized blind spot.

And teaching boys, through real life and media, from a young age that their genitals, their sexual vulnerability, dignity and integrity do not matter — that they are infact a joke, and that their exploitation by the opposite sex is “empowering”, “justified”, “funny”, “girl power”, can not logically serve to enhance their ability to extend empathy in these regards.
On the contrary.