Looking for the Gain That Makes Us Put Up With the Pain
Psychology Today | 04.02.2026 02:51
Sometimes we stay in a painful relationship even though we have the power to change or exit it. In childhood, we may have been victims of pain; in adulthood, we may become volunteers for pain. For instance, we might remain in an untenable relationship at home or work, or we keep procrastinating about moving on with our own life. We might maintain this stance because we are holding onto a self-defeating belief in powerlessness.
