Why Do Women Want to Appear Attractive While Disliking Male Sexuality?

Why Do Women Want to Appear Attractive While Disliking Male Sexuality?
This question has been asked repeatedly:
Why do women want to appear attractive to men, yet often seem uncomfortable with male sexuality?
The answer is not simple, nor is it merely psychological. At its core lies a long-standing politics of power.
Attractiveness is not just about beauty; it is about power. Women wish to appear attractive because attraction gives them a sense of strength and influence. The more attractive they are, the more powerful they feel in relation to men. And who does not want power? Human history itself is a record of mankind’s relentless pursuit of power.
Why do people desire wealth? Because it grants power.
Why do they seek political positions like Prime Minister or President? Because authority follows.
Why do some even aspire to spiritual greatness? Because that too brings influence and reverence.
Everyone seeks power, but through different means.
For centuries, women were denied almost all avenues to power. They were excluded from education, politics, economic independence, and decision-making. When all other doors were closed, only one remained open—their bodies. That became their sole means of influence.
This was not a natural choice; it was a forced condition.
Observe the modern woman today. As she gains access to education, careers, business, and politics, her obsession with appearing attractive diminishes. She no longer needs to prove her worth through physical appeal alone. She competes with men intellectually, professionally, and socially. Her power no longer depends on seduction.
Men, historically, did not focus on appearing attractive. Why? Because they had countless other ways to assert dominance—wealth, strength, authority, religion. Decorating the body was considered feminine only because men never needed it.
But this was not always the case.
There was a time when men and women were equally free. Men adorned themselves just as women did. Look at Krishna—silken garments, jewels, a peacock crown, a flute. Beauty was once a shared human expression, not a gendered one.
Then came a long, dark age when women were suppressed. Priests and so-called saints played a significant role in this oppression. They feared women—feared their power to disrupt false holiness and fragile celibacy. Fear turned into condemnation. Women were declared impure, dangerous, sinful. Their natural flow into life was blocked.
When everything else was taken away, only the body remained.
And power, even when distorted, is still power.
However, power inevitably carries violence, manipulation, and domination. To possess power means to use others. And no human being wishes to be reduced to an object.
This is where the tension arises.
A woman attracts but does not surrender easily. She invites but maintains distance. She excites desire yet withholds consent. Because the moment she becomes easily available, her power is lost. Once a man consumes her body, society teaches him to lose respect for her. She becomes “used.”
Women sense this danger instinctively.
Therefore, they hide their own desire. They pretend disinterest in sex, not because they lack passion, but because expressing it would strip them of power. Men and women desire equally, but only men are socially permitted to express it freely.
Thus begins the ugly game—pulling closer and pushing away. Attraction becomes control. Refusal becomes victory. The man feels diminished; the woman feels temporarily powerful. Neither feels loved.
This is not love.
This is a struggle for dominance.
Men feel humiliated. Women grow emotionally armored. Both drift further from genuine intimacy.
This pattern must change.
We need a new humanity where love is free from power politics. Let money have its battles, let politics have its wars—but love must remain untouched. Love should never be a marketplace transaction.
Every human being carries infinite dignity. No one—man or woman—should exist as an object.
Beauty is a blessing, but the obsession with appearing beautiful is a distortion. Attraction that flows naturally is sacred; attraction manufactured for control is manipulation. Excessive makeup and performance are symptoms of inner insecurity. Humans are naturally beautiful. True beauty lives in simplicity, honesty, and authenticity.
To be natural is to be beautiful.
And when beauty arises, it should be shared—not used as a weapon to dominate or enslave. Beauty is a divine gift. Using it for power is a violation of its purity.
When love is freed from control, it becomes prayer.
When beauty is freed from exploitation, it becomes an offering to the divine.
Conclusion
The desire of women to appear attractive is not rooted in vanity or moral weakness but in centuries of denied power. When society stripped women of education, autonomy, and authority, attraction became their only remaining currency. What followed was not love, but a silent war of control between genders.
In this struggle, both men and women suffer. Men reduce love to consumption; women reduce intimacy to defense. Desire turns into manipulation, and connection dissolves into strategy.
True liberation lies in removing power from love. When neither attraction nor sexuality is used to dominate, love regains its dignity. Beauty then becomes expression, not control—and intimacy becomes sacred rather than political.
Only when men and women meet as equals—without fear, without masks—can love transform into reverence, and beauty into grace.

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