THE FUSE

When I hear clients say they feel lost in their significant relationships, I get more confused looks when I reply, “You might consider choosing yourself.” Self-neglect, or not choosing yourself, is an insidious dynamic, often camouflaged by hard work and helping others. Before exploring what choosing yourself actually is, it might be helpful to say what it’s not. It isn’t excessive narcissism, which is the desperate search for the self, an obsession with acquiring a valued sense of self.