Rituals and Routines to Nurture Self-Love

As always, let’s start with the relationship with yourself

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Over the last year (as a fresh Mama), let me tell you, I had close to 0 routines, I didn’t even manage to brush my teeth every day at the same time. My nights were all over the place, I lived in 4 different apartments/houses. My body was healing and changing (from losing what felt like all of my hair lol, to gaining 20kg in pregnancy and then losing it all again in 4 months, hormones, etc.).

Don’t get me wrong, I know everything had to happen exactly the way it did and I for sure would not have wanted to miss any of it but it was nevertheless a lot.

Which is why I can tell you with even more conviction how important and liberating routines and rituals are in our lives.

I see routines similarly to a healthy relationship — and I really mean a healthy, loving, respectful, and stress-free relationship — it frees up energy in all other aspects of your life.

Routines create safety. And safety creates freedom. It’s like routines are the secure relationship with yourself.

You make sure you take care of yourself. You can rely on yourself to do what is good for you, no matter the outer circumstances. You prioritise yourself. You do what you say you’re going to do. You value your time with yourself. Do you see my point?

And when I say routines I don’t mean a crazy 5am morning routine or a marathon run every day, although of course if that comes easy to you go ahead. But I mean simple, easy routines that calm your nervous system.

Here are some examples from my own life:

I drink a warm beverage every morning and only turn on my phone after I have finished the drink peacefully
We set up a new work schedule, which makes it super crystal clear when my husband is watching the baby and when it’s my turn to and vice versa when it’s whoever’s turn to work. This gives me so much headspace for my work and for my role as a mom.
I move my body daily (a walk, a pilates class, a youtube video)
Going to bed with a clean and tidy kitchen (instead of waking up to a messy day)
Very recently we’ve been turning off our phones at 7pm
I do a little evening ritual with our son of showing gratitude and validating hard emotions of the day
Glucose friendly eating (greens first, then fats & proteins, at last carbs) to keep my energy levels stable
I light a candle for each coaching session
3 hours of me-time every Sunday, then 3 hours for Nikko (this one we have not implemented yet)

Maybe some of these are rituals or routines to integrate in your life or maybe they just give you a few ideas for your own but I can just say that having more routine in my life has been an absolute game changer.

The routines and rituals I like aren’t necessarily the ones that change my life from one day to another, but the ones that — through consistency and repetition — become second nature with time and therefore enhance my life quality over time.

My 3 tips for creating your own routines:

Let them naturally evolve so they are easy to integrate: e.g. It’s unrealistic for me to be going to the gym 5x a week right now, at least for more than 1 week lol but just moving daily in some way feels natural as I already do it sometimes more and sometimes less. So I’m taking what comes natural and make it into a structured routine I can stick to.
Get inspired but make it authentic: on Instagram etc. you get lotsssss of inspiration for routines and rituals. I believe we are all on this planet together so that we can learn from and grow with each other but just because Influencer so and so loves her Wim Hof ice bathing or not eating between 5pm–12pm or going to the gym before work, doesn’t mean it’s right for you and your body.
Allow yourself to pivot if your routine doesn’t feel good: e.g. Nikko and I went through a phase in which we had 3 three-hour long sex-dates a week and 2 connection-dates a week (as we were told by an intimacy coach) and even though we felt more connected and loved than ever, we felt drained and tired in every other part of our lives lol

Alright, that’s it from me today. If you do want to listen to me speak on the subject more you can listen to my podcast episode “2026 Energies + Creating Routines and Making them into Rituals” here.

As always sending you so much love,

Nora

Nora Ring — Self-Love Coach
Create deep-rooted and long-lasting self-love in your life to take up space, have thriving relationships & lead your life with empowerment.

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