THE FUSE

IF YOU GREW up thinking sex was as simple as sticking your D in, pumping a few times, and miraculously bringing both you and your partner to orgasm in a matter of seconds, we’re here to tell you: You’re wrong. But also, it’s not totally your fault. Many men primarily learn about sex from porn, says Rufus Spann, PhD, a sex therapist and founder of Libido Health, which tends to skimp on foreplay, or skip over it entirely.