Joseph, Age 63, Explained to Me That I’ll Slow Down in My 40s. He is [Scary] Right.

Speed was everything in my 30s. Now? Focusing on what matters.

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A senior drinking coffee. — Life lessons cannot be forced down our throats. We must be ready for them. Photo by Centre for Ageing Better on Unsplash

“You are like me, my friend. And you are not ready for a better life. Not yet. Not now.”

I’ll be honest. I thought Joseph was mindf**king me. I was ready for a better life. Why would I not? I crave it. I am desperate for it.

In truth, all I needed was a step-by-step guide to follow. I will gladly buy it for $1,000.

And that was Joe’s point. I was desperate, not ready. He was waiting to speak to an evolved version of me.

That did not happen until 5 years later.

Then, 2026 came.

The change was unobservable [and huge]

I am my own sea change. Literally.

I remember what I was like in my mid and late 30s. I worked late and hard, seized opportunities, and learned that doing good work meant getting involved in things I loathed working on.

I genuinely thought I was being mature. Now, I am starting to realize that I have been suppressing my True Self.

That said, I did not regret the path I took.