Not Everything Needs to Be Healed

Why some feelings aren’t asking to be fixed

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At some point, feeling uncomfortable became something we assumed needed fixing.

If you feel restless, irritated, or off, it's assumed that something is wrong with you. Something unresolved and needs work. We’ve learned to treat every unpleasant feeling like a personal defect instead of asking what it might be responding to.

That mindset sounds mature. It sounds self-aware. But it’s also exhausting.

Not everything you feel is an injury.

Some feelings are reactions to conditions that aren’t working. Some are boundaries being crossed or the internal friction that shows up when you’ve stayed too long, said yes too many times, or learned how to tolerate what you shouldn’t have had to.

But healing language flattens all of that.

When every reaction gets framed as something broken inside you, the focus shifts inward by default. A bad environment becomes an inner wound. A reasonable limit becomes emotional labor. Endurance gets praised, while change gets quietly postponed.

This is how people end up endlessly working on themselves while staying in situations that don’t respect them.